How Do I Tell My Parents?
Saturday, October 24th, 2009 at
2:34 pm
that i want to see a dermatologist?
ive got bad acne, and nothing out there works long term. it works for maybe a month, then it stops working and my acne gets worse, ive used every product out there, and nothing works any more!
i also have a case of what i think is rosacea that i want to get taken care of before school starts.
how should i tell my parents, im 13 and im not much of a confrontational type.
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tell them it really bothers you and ask if you can
Im a mother and he is only 8 so not dealing with this problem yet…but I do remember being a teen and dealing with acne. If yours is bad enough that you think about seeing a derm it probably needs to be checked out.
Maybe if you and your mom hang out much..like go up to her while she is putting on makeup ..getting ready for work in front of the mirror…kinda walk up and check yourself out and say..”mom…my face is not getting better and you know Ive tried everything…what do you think about me seeing a dermatologist before school starts?” Just ask her in a way that sounds like you are looking for her advice…I bet she will take you!
Good luck!!!
P.S.. If she doesnt go for the doc…have you tried the mary kay 3in1 cleanser and moisteriser? Of all the things Ive used..that skin care line has kept my face the clearest. Its made for women like in their 20′s and older but it is awesome stuff..works really good.
There is only one way to do it, just tell them…there is nothing to lose. I know they will understand. And I bet one of them had the same problem. If it were me, I wouldn’t think twice…Its not a fight…its your face.
Tell them exactly what you’ve posted here. Most likely they’ll understand your concerns. The only problem I can see would be the cost. If finances or insurance isn’t a concern they’ll probably grant your request. Better to spend your money on something that works. Good luck.
Personally, I can’t imaine why it would be a problem. If your parents have insurance your visit should be covered with the exception of the copay. If they don’t have insurance then I can see the issue since these visits along with any prescription can be hundreds of dollars.
As someone who had acne as a teenager I can tell you though that they are going to ask you to use over-the- counter products and may possibly give you a prescription as well. My dermatoligist recommended a facial cleanser called cetaphil (the one with the blue label not the stronger one), He told my mother the same thing for her skin. Basically, it is a VERY gental cleanser that will gradually balance and even your skin. It takes about 2-3 weeks before you will even notice any change other than the fact that your skin may get worse before it gets better. All those harsh skin cleansers and acne creams you buy in the store actually worsen the cause of the acne and provide a quick fix that will not last.
If I were you I would go to my mother or father whoever is easier for you. Tell them that you feel self consious about your skin and it’s condition. Tell them that since you have tried a lot of different over-the-counter treatments and have seen little to no result you would like to see a dermatologist. If the co pay for the insurance is high tell them that you would pay that part if they are worried about it… This will show them that you are really bothered by the problem and you are serious about getting treatment.
Good luck! I know it is hard to be 13 and I don’t envy you, but it does get better!
Tell you mother first and then have a family discussion. Your Mom should realize how important it is to girls and women to have nice skin. So, she could be an ally when talking to your father.
Just tell your Mom that you are concerned about your skin and that you were thinking that you would like to go to a dermatologist.
I don’t think your Mom would think that was confrontational.
“Mom, Dad, can I go to a dermatologist for *insert reasons here?”
Acne’s normal at 13 though.
I just asked my mom if I could go for my eczema.
WHY should you be afraid, ashamed or embarrassed to tell your parents about your skin problems?
I’m sure they’ve already noticed it at some point.
That’s a part of growing up. They might be waiting on YOU to bring up the subject of concern so just open the conversation up and go for it.
Do like the Nike commercial says….JUST DO IT.
don’t by shy your parents love you very much what ever you do
I’d go to my mom and say “Mom I’m starting school soon and I’ve been dealing with this acne for so long now. I’d really like a more long term solution. I believe that seeing a dermatologist would help me manage my acne better and find a long term solution. Additionally, do you notice this? I think it might be rosacea and would like to get that taken care of as well. What do you think?”
Just tell them. I’m pretty positive they won’t get mad at you or anything. It’s not like you’re asking them for plastic/cosmetic surgery or something. It’s a medical attention that you are asking for and it’s important! It’s you skin we’re talking about here. Healthy skin is thee best.
Tell them what you just told us….and tell them you are embarrassed….tell them it’s hard enough to have to speak to people and look them in the face, but try doing it when your feeling like all they can see is your acne….therefor, you just end up avoiding social contact as much as possible…But I will tell you, when I was that age and went to the dermatologist, they gave me tetracycline (which then gave me yeast infections) and topical stuff and none of them really worked that great….I know you don’t want to hear it but through the years….Proactive (but try just using the cleanser) the toner, no matter how little I used, made my face a greasy mess…..Good Luck. It seems so embarrising now, but this too shall pass. P.S. Keep your pillow case clean, your hair clean and away from your face….and make it a point to drink more more more water. These things help.
Gees your having problem with ance just tell them your acting like you got pregnant i can’t tell my parents. Just ask your mom to make appoinment there’s nothing t be scared of
mom, dad…..can I talk to about something that is important to me?
Perhaps you don’t think it is a big deal, but I do and it bothers me a lot. I would like to go to a dermatologist and get rid of this horrible acne. Can we please do this before school starts? If it costs a lot of money, I will do extra chores. Please. This is important to me.
I srtongly recommend, bare minerals from QVC for your acne, then i also reccomend you using sulfur soap to cleanse your face at least twice a day, and 5%-10% benzel peroxide topical cream. The bare minerals is an all natural mineral make up that helps to cover flawlessly and many customers also say that it helps to clear up their skin. If this doesn’t work, just explain to your parents how you feel about your acne. Approach them in a nice calm way, when they are relaxed. Good luck! Hope this helps!
I think that the best way to ask for something you want is to write a letter and read from it. Take the time to decide what you want and why. Write it all out and then you can read it to them. That way you won’t get overwhelmed and forget you’re ideas and feelings. good luck, J
Hmm. Well, I’m like you, it’s hard to bring a subject directly to the parents. I would say just find a casual moment to say, “You know, my acne’s pretty bad, and I was wondering…” it’s easier for me. It might work for you too. Just a suggestion.
dear bugaboo baby,
hello! my name is brittney. i just wanted to give you some downright good advice. Right now i’m sitting here with this annoying pimple/zit thing on my chin and it wont go away. Last week they were all over my forehead. i have terrible skin. It’s oily and the pores are all open and stuff next to my nose. i wish that i had gone to the dermatoligist. i want to book an appt and you should 2.
love,
me.
p.s i hope i helped
Sugar, you don’t have to be confrontational to ask your parents to take you to a dermatologist! Just say,”Mom, Dad, I’ve tried all the other the counter products and nothing helps my acne. Please may I go see a dermatologist?”
That simple!
Calmly explain to your parents that it is kind of depressing for you to have these skin problems. This problem will hold you back from social activities, and make you feel insecure. Tell them you wouldnt ask if it wasnt so important to you. They will understand. .. I had the same problem growing up. I didnt want to go swimming. I hid my face with my hair. I didnt let any boys touch my face, and spent sooooo much time trying to cover it up with make-up. A dermatologist helped me. Now I am 37, and still struggling with skin problems (a little bit) I know how you feel. Its very depressing. Good luck.
just tell them
btw tooth paste works!
Just go to them, and be calm and honest. Tell them that you would like a doctors opinion and they will probably agree, as they will most likely trust what a doctor tells you. You may be suprised how willing they are to help.
I don’t think you have to “confront” them. Just talk to them and I’m sure they’ll understand.
awww : ( im the same way i hate confronting my parnets on that kinda stuff and i have the same acne issues so idk just say mom can we go to the store to get some face wash..thednn when ur there be like you know i have tryed all this, nothing works can i go to a dermatolagist
well if it isnt easy to ask your parents something that would be a problem. just say ‘hey im worried about my skin and i want to see a dermotologist!’ doesnt seem hard to me…
Straight up tell them. My mom would bring me there in a heart beat if I had bad acne and nothing worked. Most insurance policy cover it as well…they should be supportive if they are normal parents. Your only 13, you don’t want your acne to get out of hand, correct it now. The dermatologist may have to try different products to see what works for your skin.
Please just ask them. It doesn’t need to be confrontational.
Just ask. Acne can be very scarring, both physically and emotionally. There are many new medical procedures and medicines that can help.
just say, hey mom, im kinda worried about these zits, and i think that i need to see a dermetologist. Tell her next time you’re at the store buying some new product, and tell her that you need to get ur acne checked out. Good luck, and i know its hard…. im not great at telling my parents anything at all.
Yeah just tell them its something you really want. You should feel comfortable confronting your parents on an issue as simple as going to the doctor. I mean, its not like you are telling your parents that you are homosexual or something. Its not going to break their hearts dear.
dont worry just tell them it bothers you and can you go to a dermatologist they will understand i had acne when i was thirteen and it is very normal.
Dermatologist never cured my acne.
See an experienced Esthetician instead. Cheaper and CURED!